Deanna and Graham

Man. Bachelorette was intense tonight. Deanna let Graham go. She was crying and telling him, "you have no idea how hard this is for me." I think Deanna needed to let him go. I think she was only in for more hurt and disappointment with him. She didn't get him.

"I like to talk about and communicate what I am feeling...You run away." Graham took that for the blow it was: "I don't run away. I handle it internally." Deanna--"You are so closed off." Graham, visibily hurt, took another blow silently and moved deeper into his internal place. Deanna totally insulted him for...being different than her. Having a personality that deals with things in different ways.

So easy to see it when I'm watching it on tv...but in real life--i think i would have felt the same way Deanna did. I HATE it when 'he' won't share with me....when he is different than me. And yet, that different-ness is the very thing you love too!